{"id":3055,"date":"2015-03-23T17:41:20","date_gmt":"2015-03-24T00:41:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/?p=3055"},"modified":"2015-03-23T17:41:20","modified_gmt":"2015-03-24T00:41:20","slug":"so-much-pain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/2015\/03\/23\/so-much-pain\/","title":{"rendered":"So Much Pain"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"grief<\/a>All women are sisters. \u00a0If you don’t believe me, write about a\u00a0miscarriage and see what happens. \u00a0A week ago I described\u00a0my own experience<\/a>, now more than 30 years old\u00a0—\u00a0memories made fresh by a private newsletter\u00a0conversation.<\/p>\n

Two amazing\u00a0(but not surprising)\u00a0realities emerged: \u00a01) This is one pain that stays right there – buried\u00a0under daily events and worries and happy times — but not gone. \u00a0Never gone. \u00a02) It is a gift to have a place to discuss or describe the things that\u00a0wound\u00a0us, change us, leave silent but permanent marks. \u00a0 Offering that space is one\u00a0particular gift women give to one another. \u00a0Here are three\u00a0who shared my “place:”<\/p>\n

Nobody ever talks about it but the reality is that many people have been through it (multiple times even) and I think there is comfort in shared grief.<\/p>\n

I like to be tidy with emotions (I never am – HA!), but the grief I feel about these losses have a layer of guilt around them – as if I shouldn’t be so upset. But I am.<\/p>\n

I am in tears! I was on Facebook, saw your post on miscarriage and just oh my goodness. I have had 2 miscarriages in the past year. It been hard, but it’s made so much harder that the whole subject has a weird taboo around it. It’s not like people won’t ask me when I’m planning to have kids. I’ve heard\u00a0a thousand times “when are you going to have children?” and had to make light of a situation that I was still really sad about.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

That’s all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

All women are sisters. \u00a0If you don’t believe me, write about a\u00a0miscarriage and see what happens. \u00a0A week ago I described\u00a0my own experience, now more than 30 years old\u00a0—\u00a0memories made fresh by a private newsletter\u00a0conversation. Two amazing\u00a0(but not surprising)\u00a0realities emerged: \u00a01) This is one pain that stays right there – buried\u00a0under daily events and worries … Continue reading So Much Pain<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[2877,42,7,29],"tags":[2312,2329,3220,44],"class_list":["post-3055","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-microblogmonday-2","category-family","category-life","category-women","tag-grief","tag-miscarriage","tag-shared-grief","tag-women-2"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4gBq8-Nh","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3055","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3055"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3055\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3068,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3055\/revisions\/3068"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3055"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3055"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3055"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}