{"id":1570,"date":"2008-02-07T21:03:07","date_gmt":"2008-02-07T21:03:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/2008\/02\/07\/jewish-sex-hono\/"},"modified":"2008-02-07T21:03:07","modified_gmt":"2008-02-07T21:03:07","slug":"jewish-sex-hono","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cynthiasamuels.com\/blog\/2008\/02\/07\/jewish-sex-hono\/","title":{"rendered":"JEWISH SEX, HONOR AND HOLINESS"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"David_and_bathsheva_chagall\"<\/a>
\nSex and religion have always seemed at odds.  Stories of sexual impulsivity have been with us forever  – King David and Batsheva<\/a> , Anna Karenina<\/a>, , Atonement <\/a> , Prince Charles, presidents, senators, preachers and ball players.  So it’s not surprising that human beings struggle to maintain heavy sexual controls within the rules of faith.  Any faith.<\/p>\n

In a class this week though, we studied the unique textual perspective toward sex within Judaism.  The great teacher Laura Shaw Frank<\/a>, about whom I’ve written before, returned for four weeks to teach the Orthodox "Laws of Family Purity" — an unfortunate term since, for me at least, the first association I make when I hear "family purity" is "racial purity."  But never mind, that’s another \"Atonement_movie_3\"<\/a>
\nconversation.  <\/p>\n

There are complicated laws concerning marital relations, menstruation and other issues within the intimacies of marriage and we will study them for the next three weeks.  Last night though, we began at the beginning.  What do Jewish texts tell us about the place of sex in a Jewish life?<\/p>\n

The premise: that sex, within Jewish life, is part of the holiness of families, and serves to hold families, and traditions, together. "How can we say the "evil inclination" <\/em>(sex drive) is very good?  It is to teach us that if there were no evil inclination, a man would not build a home for himself, and wouldn’t marry a woman and wouldn’t beget children.*"<\/em>  The bottom line appears to be that honor, decency and institutional preservation depend upon sexual desire – which in turn, in those working to control it within themselves, leads to the creation of and adherence to civilization, marriage and family.  <\/p>\n

Beyond that, these connections must work on three levels — the interpersonal, between man and woman (or man\/man or woman\/woman, but not then), the cosmic – with God – and historic – with all of the Jewish people.  Always, sex is meant to allow us to honor one another and therefore honor God.  Throughout the class I kept thinking of this — it seems to sum it all up.  A young soldier, leaving for war, trying to explain his departure to his beloved. It’s going to be interesting to see how all of this supports some of the more unusual Orthodox rules of physical intimacy.  Stay tuned.<\/p>\n

To Lucasta, Going off to the Wars
Richard Lovelace
(1618-1658)
 
Tell me not, Sweet, I am unkind,
That from the nunnery
Of thy chaste breast and quiet mind
To war and arms I fly.
True, a new mistress now I chase,
The first foe in the field;
And with a stronger faith embrace
A sword, a horse, a shield.<\/p>\n

Yet this inconstancy is such
As thou too shalt adore;
I could not love thee, Dear, so much,
Loved I not Honour more.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

*Kohelet Rabba 3:16<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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