BlogHer, Bella, Books and Us Women

Bella_bw1_2 Two weeks ago I spent the weekend with 1,000 remarkable women.  You know where; the Web has been full of posts and tweets and messages about BlogHer, the women bloggers conference.  Since its founding, BlogHer has held four conferences, and I’ve been to three of them.  For those three years I’ve wondered at the strength and power of both the gathering and each woman, most far younger than I, who is part of it.  Audacious and rambunctious, honest and gifted, they are far beyond where I was at their age.  I’ve always known that all of us, sisters from the 70’s and 80’s and 90’s, scratched and kicked and pulled and fought to move our lives, and those of the women around us, forward.  In many ways, we made a difference.  I’m proud of that.

Today though I was reminded of a real heroine, one whose star lit the way for much of what we did, in a wonderful piece in The Women’s Review of Books: Ruth Rosen‘s review of  Bella Abzug: How One Tough Broad from the Bronx Fought
Jim Crow and Joe McCarthy, Pissed Off Jimmy Carter, Battled for the
Rights of Women and Workers, … Planet, and Shook Up Politics Along
the Way
–an oral history of the life of Bella Abzug.  Among other things, Ruth says:

She fought for the
rights of union workers and African Americans, protested the use of the atomic
bomb and the Vietnam War, waged endless battles to advance women’s rights, and
spent the last years of her life promoting environmentalism and human rights.
When she plunged into the women’s movement during the late 1960s, Abzug infused
feminism with her fierce, strategic, take-no-prisoners spirit. As Geraldine
Ferraro reminds us,
She didn’t knock lightly on the door. She didn’t even push it open or batter it
down. She took it off the hinges forever! So that those of us who came after
could walk through!

And with a bow to Bella and so many others, walk through we have.  It’s tough to pass the stories ‘I walked six miles to school in the snow’
fogey.   Younger women, though, would find courage to fight their own
battles in Bella’s story and in many of our own."

For me, Bella was a brave, untamed beacon of defiance and energy. Her story, and ours, laid the ground for these determined, gifted "blogger generation" women. I would so love to be able to tell them about her – and about all of us, just so they could know the solidarity, the battles, the anger and the hope.  And why seeing them all together, hugging, laughing and raising hell, makes me so damned happy.  And that Bella would have loved them.

OVER ALREADY: BLOGHER ’08

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This photo was taken at the closing plenary of BlogHer08 and I’ve barely covered the event at all.  There are so many moments I’d love to tell you about: readings by bloggers whose words hold incredible power; one by one they reveal intimate moments of sadness and joy, anger and hilarity.  The words, drawn from their posts, are the clearest evidence of the power of this institution, not yet five years old and already a gigantic force for good in the lives of the women who have come here.  So many more.

We’re all on our way home now;  to Austin and Sacramento and Virginia and Manhattan and Minneapois, energized for another year, ready to write and comment and commit ourselves to that which we create.  From these two days we’ve learned about traffic and writing, activism and art, gender and age tribalism, friendship, sisterhood and the joys of San Francisco.  What we gain here informs the rest of our year: makes us wiser and funnier and more determined.  And really, whatever I would have written had it not been for Sabbath obligations and general exhaustion boils down to that.  So thanks Elisa and Jory and Lisa (and Jill and Mary Margaret and Kristen and Asha and Erin and Sarah and Devra and Jill and Kari and Beth and Tekla and Catherine and the other Catherine and Morra and Nicole and Liz and Kelly and Jen and Julie ) and all the other beautiful bloggers who, when we’re all together, raise the roof of whatever building we happen to be in, and also – every one of our spirits and our hearts.

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JEWISH BLOG CARNIVAL- TRY IT OUT

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I am now a member of a Blog Carnival called Haveil Havalim, a community of Jewish bloggers submitting posts of interest to the community interested in Jewish issues.  Today’s link, my first appearance, is called Daled Amos.  You’ll find it interesting, I think.  And if you want to know what the words mean, read this, written by the founder.  Meanwhile, take a look.

BLOGGING BABY BOOMERS CARNIVAL #77 : Holiday Inns, Senior Moments and the Movies

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Well I’m "it" this week –
the blog carnival gang has landed on my doorstep, and what wonderful gifts
they’ve left!

Since we’re blogging boomers we’ll
start with John Agno of So Baby Boomer, who’s thinking about video games this
week:   Aging boomers are turning to video games to keep their wits
agile….because they are worried about too many senior moments.

The always original Wesley Hein
reminds us that "Hollywood has made good use of the struggles of middle
age."  With that in mind, on LifeTwo  he has compiled a list of Top Ten Midlife Crisis Movies.

Rhea Pearlman of The (recently highly complimented) Boomer Chronicles is thinking real estate and makes an irritating discovery:   There’s a stigma to being middle-aged and renting.

On the aging theme, Nora Ephron may hate her neck, but she never met the two creators of Fabulous over Forty. Did you know that wearing the
wrong style of necklace can really age you?  They’ll tell you which of this
season’s accessories
are in or out.

Perfect for summer: I Remember JFK‘s Ron Enderland’s
meditations on summer vacations past :  "Ah, life on the
road circa 1967. Where would we spend the night? Would dad pull an all-nighter
and get us somewhere early in the morning? That was known to happen. Or would
we stay at a nice, clean, cheap, joyless motel without a pool?  Or, would
dad, feeling flush after a particularly profitable week fixing diesel trucks in
his garage, spring for the ultimate experience in lodging? That would, of
course, be the Holiday Inn!"

In other very exciting news, the ultra-cool, innovative, trend watching company PSFK has listed
Gen Plus and The Boomer Chronicles in their list of “Boomer Blogs to
Follow”.  Janet Wendy has
the full list posted and a link to PSFK to get a
peek at the latest in trend.

 Ann at Contemporary Retirement
couldn’t help smiling in recognition when she read Autobiography in Five Short Chapters by Portia
Nelson.  See if it rings any bells for you.

Meanwhile, Midlife Crisis Queen asks
"Do you ever wonder if you’re headed for a midlife crisis?" then
answers with the warning signs.

"Who says divorce is the answer when
things get rough?" asks Dina.  "There may be a better way to solve things."  She’s got some thoughts over at
This Marriage Thing.

And, even though it’s just below here – here’s my cranky Boomer post about the John McCain "love" commercial.  Don’t hate me if you disagree – I couldn’t help it.

 

SHUT UP AND SING: CATCHING UP WITH THE DIXIE CHICKS AND WORRYING ABOUT THE ELECTION

Shut_up_and_sing_2Have you seen  this movie?  I sat in bed watching it early Sunday morning on cable and was just blown away.  It’s one of the saddest, scariest, most moving American documentaries I’ve seen in a long time.  That’s no surprise, since it was directed by  Barbara Kopple, who made Harlan County USA – the landmark documentary about coal mine union battles in Kentucky.

What happened to the Dixie Chicks is infuriating: performing in London just before the start of the Iraq war, lead singer Natalie Maines (married, by the way, to HEROES star Adrian Pasdar,) told the crowd "Just so you know, we’re ashamed the President of the United States is from Texas."  The scene is included in this preview.


As I watched the film, seeing the rage and cruelty that emerged in the response to this one sentence,  my first thought was, "Oh my God, what does this mean for Barack Obama?"  The people who went after the Dixie chicks were nowhere near a sense of respect for the First Amendment – and sounded like they would be particularly vulnerable to "elitist" or racist accusations against a candidate.  If you remember the exit polls in West Virginia, Ohio and Pennsylvania you’ll recall that many respondents just about acknowledged that they would not vote for Senator Obama simply because of his race.  Am I unfair to wonder if many of those people are the same ones booing and even threatening Maines’ life?  Still "out there" in larger numbers than we wish?  Look at these figures:

In Pennsylvania
exit polls on primary day, 14% of voters
said that race one one of several important factors. Fifty-five percent of those were Clinton
voters and 45% Obama voters. When asked
race was “important” 19% said yes – 59% of them Clinton voters; when asked if
race was a factor in their decision, 12% said yes. In this group, 76% were white Clinton voters.

In West
Virginia
, when asked race was “important” to their decision, 22% said yes –82%
of them Clinton voters; when asked if race was a factor in their decision, 21%
said yes. In this group, 84% were white
Clinton voters.

Finally, Ohio. There, when asked race was “important” to
their decision, 20% said yes–  59% of them Clinton voters; when asked if race
was a factor in their decision, 14% said yes. In this group, 59% were Clinton voters. (the racial breakdown was not available here.)   

Please understand – I don’t know if I’m right.  I’m not alleging racial bias in all those who rose up to burn Dixie Chicks CDs and threaten country stations with boycotts if they "ever played one of their songs again"  – but I do suspect they could be more vulnerable to campaigns run in an uglier vein – just as they responded to this one.  It’s worrying me.

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ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL NEW MOM POSTS EVER

Cahterine_2006_cropped This is Catherine Connors, also known as Her Bad Mother.  Mom to a preschool daughter and a brand new son, she’s a former professor of political philosophy and a blogging star.  And this week, after the birth of her son, she wrote one of the most powerful posts I’ve ever read about being a mother, bearing a second child and being a woman with a heart and a soul and a body.  Read it.   

SUMMER DRESSES, 60S TV, MARRIAGE, CRUMBLING BRIDGES AND OBAMA: ALL PART OF BLOGGING BOOMERS CARNIVAL #71!

So_baby_boomerThis week the Carnival stops at John Agno’s So Baby Boomer.  If you want to read about "green" cars, summer dresses, good marriages, TV for all us 40+ folks, our crumbling infrastructure or Barack Obama, you can get there from this inventory of our latests efforts.  Take a look.

FIFTY-SOMETHING MOMS AND I’M ONE OF THEM!

Fifty_something_buttonThis is really exciting.  Silicon Valley Moms has launched a Fifty-Something Moms blog and I’m honored to be one of them.  Although it’s been around for a while, the site’s OFFICIAL launch is today.  I’ve only posted twice so far, once on being a "fake grandparent" and once on  childbirth for us in the First World versus for women in developing nations but hope to post at least once every two weeks.  There are plenty of lovely posts already so have a look.  I’ll be mentioning posts from this sister blog as we move forward.  It really is an exciting project – as are the other blogs that share the franchise –  Silicon Valley Moms Blog, Chicago Moms Blog, DC Metro Moms Blog, New York City Moms Blog and New Jersey Moms Blog, with a Deep South Moms Blog launching soon.  So get over there.  Now!

IF IT’S MONDAY IT MUST BE BLOGGING BOOMERS CARNIVAL

GenplusIt’s yet another Monday morning and the Blogging Boomers have again assembled their favorite posts of the week.  This time the host is my good friend and much respected sister blogger Wendy Spiegel at GenPlus.  Come read about everything from how to be an "elder generation" (I continue to protest this word but I think it’s me, not the word…..) to layoffs in our 50s to good style and good marriage.  As usual, Wendy proves to be a lovely host.